Thanks for your thoughtful comment. I’m not a professional therapist but I can say what Eckhart says which is that when dealing with unconscious behavior you can, “remove yourself, change it or accept it completely”. I’d suggest trying to change things with your husband through professional help and if that does not work you may need to remove herself. Acceptance/presence does not mean putting up with abuse. Good luck to you!

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